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The sky is the limit as far as what can be read at a wedding. Here is a collection of some beautiful readings that could work.
WEDDING TIP: Did someone not make it as a Groomsman or Bridesmaid? Have them do a reading and they feel great about being a part o your wedding.
i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.
From The Irrational Season
By Madeleine L'Engle
“But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take.If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling...”
“If you do not believe that hearts can bloom suddenly bigger, and that love can open like a flower out of even the hardest places, then I am afraid that for you the road will be long and brown and barren, and you will have trouble finding the light.
But if you do believe, then you already know all about magic.”
By Lauren Oliver
"I Rely on You," by Hovis Presley
I rely on you
like a camera needs a shutter
like a gambler needs a flutter
like a golfer needs a putter
like a buttered scone involves some butter
I rely on you
like an acrobat needs ice cool nerve
like a hairpin needs a drastic curve
like an HGV needs endless derv
like an outside left needs a body swerve
I rely on you
like a handyman needs pliers
like an auctioneer needs buyers
like a laundromat needs driers
like The Good Life needed Richard Briers
I rely on you.
Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love. How on earth can you explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love? Put your hand on a stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with that special girl for an hour and it seems like a minute. That's relativity.
"Falling in love is like owning a dog," by Taylor Mali
First of all, it's a big responsibility,
especially in a city like New York.
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you're walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain't no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?
On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.
Love doesn't like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.
Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.
Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don't you ever do that again!
Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you're all wound up and can't move.
But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.
"All I Ever Really Needed to Know I Learned in Kindergarten," by Robert Fulgham
All of what I really need to know about how to live, and what to do, and how to be, I learned in Kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sandbox at nursery school.
These are the things I learned…
Don't hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don't take things that aren't yours.
Say sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you. Give them to someone who feels sad.
Live a balanced life.
Learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day.
Take a nap every afternoon.
Be aware of wonder.
Remember the little seed in the plastic cup? The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
Everything you need to know is in there somewhere.
And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.
“Love Is Friendship Caught Fire”, by Laura Hendricks
"Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses. Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past. It is the day-in and day-out chronicles of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough."
"Sonnet 116", by William Shakespeare
"Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove.
Oh no, it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering barque
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken
Love’s not time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come.
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me prov’d,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved."
From "The Hungering Dark", by Frederick Buechner
"Matrimony is called holy, because this brave and fateful promise of a man and a woman, to love and honor and serve each other through thick and thin, looks beyond itself to more fateful promises still, and speaks mightily of what human life at its most human and most alive and most holy must always be. Every wedding is a dream, and every word that is spoken there means more than it says, and every gesture - the clasping of hands, the giving of rings - is rich with mystery. And so it [is that] we hope with every bride and groom, that the love they bear one another, and the joy they take in one another, may help them grow in love for this whole world where their final joy lies."
You are holding up a ceiling
with both arms. It is very heavy,
but you must hold it up, or else
it will fall down on you. Your arms
are tired, terribly tired,
and as the day goes on, it feels
as if either your arms or the ceiling
will soon collapse.
But then, unexpectedly,
something wonderful happens:
Someone, a man or a woman,
walks into the room
and holds their arms up
to the ceiling beside you.
So you finally get
to take down your arms.
You feel the relief of respite,
the blood flowing back
to your fingers and arms.
And when your partner’s arms tire,
you hold up your own
to relieve him again.
And it can go on like this
for many years
without the house falling.
–Michael Blumenthal, , from “A Marriage” (One idea for this reading is to use 2 different readers who also ‘act out’ the reading.)
THE IRISH BLESSING
May the road always rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your home,
the rains fall soft upon your fields, and the light of friendship guide your path together.
And until we meet again, may you see your children’s children!
May you be poor in misfortune, but rich in blessings.
May you know nothing but happiness.
May green be the grass you walk upon.
May blue be the skies above you.
May pure be the joys that surround you.
May true be the hearts that love you.
And, today, may the Spirit of love find a dwelling place in your hearts.
I promise to love you
and love you I do
To laugh with you,
cry with you,
always be true
I want to explore
all the dreams that we share
I want to risk loving you,
to love you I dare
I'll be the partner you need
Your best friend forever
In sickness and health,
For worse or for better
May our marriage be,
like green eggs and ham
a perfect match
Like toast and jam
I will love you
And walk with you
One day at a time
Please accept now this vow
Hidden in a rhyme.
THE APACHE PRAYER
Now you will feel no rain
for each will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold
for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there's no more loneliness.
Now you are two bodies,
but there's only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place
to enter into your days together.
May your days be good
and long upon the earth
I Love You!
THE LOVE CHAPTER
St. Paul – 1 Corinthians 13:7-14
Love is patient
Love is kind
Love does not envy
Love does not boast
It is not proud
It is not rude It is not self-seeking
Nor easily provoked
Love keeps no record of wrong
Love never delights in evil But rejoices and celebrates when truth wins
Love always protects
Always trust and always hopes
Love endures through every circumstance
THE LOVE CHAPTER
As written by a 13 year old!
Love is willing to patiently wait
Love keeps on being friendly to people who aren’t friendly back.
Love doesn’t brag. Love isn’t stuck up.
Love lets others have their turn to speak.
Love never puts others down by acting like they don’t count.
Love doesn’t lose its temper when someone hogs the phone
or spends too much time in the bathroom.
Love doesn’t hold grudges.
Love doesn’t think doing wrong is cool.
Love looks out for the interests of others.
Love keeps on trusting, even when something doesn’t turn out the way you want it to. Love keeps on expecting the best.
Love doesn’t give up just because something goes wrong
or because your feelings are hurt.
Love is forever!