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You’re engaged!!! You’re over the moon excited and the plans are starting to fall into place but when it comes to the core of the celebration, the ceremony, who will marry you?

Let’s make sure you get the ceremony you want with these questions. I recommend you encourage the officiant to share their story so you can get a feel for who they are, their passion and their personality to make sure it’s a good fit.

1. Are you available on our wedding date?

2. How many weddings have you performed?

3. How many weddings do you perform in one day? Are we your only couple that day?

4. How long is the average ceremony?

5. Are you flexible with different religions/beliefs?

6. How long are you on site for our wedding?

7. Do you have a sample ceremony that we can review?

8. Can I have a friend marry us? If so, what is your involvement?

9. What must we say legally in the ceremony?

10. Do you do custom ceremonies?

11. What is included in your fee?

12. What is the process from signing the contract to the wedding date? How many meetings will we have to create the custom ceremony? Payment schedule? How many revisions do we get when creating the ceremony?

13. Where do you find your inspiration when customizing a ceremony for a couple?

14. How much say do we have in the creation of the ceremony?

15. Will you assist us when writing our personal vows?

16. What is your back up if you were unable to be there for our day?

17. In the event of a cancellation or date change, what is the next step?

18. What do you do when you arrive at the venue before the ceremony?

19. Will you make an announcement for unplugged ceremonies and/or cocktail hour to follow before the ceremony begins?

20. Are you present for the wedding rehearsal? What is involved with that?

21. What do you wear to the ceremony?

22. Do you require pre-marital counseling before you marry us?

A few questions to dive deeper and get to know your officiant better:

1. Are you married? Tell us about your ceremony.

2. Why did you become a marriage commissioner?

3. What was the most moving ceremony you performed?

4. What languages do you speak? (just in case)

5. What is the most challenging part of your job?

6. When meeting with a couple what is it that you look for?

7. What is your favourite part of the wedding?

8. Tell us the most unique wedding you were apart of and how you customized their ceremony for them.

9. What do you wish more couple knew about marriage commissioners?

10. What is the best review from a couple you’ve received to date?

I have had the pleasure of working with Darian and his passion for marriage is contagious. If you believe the ceremony is the core of your wedding day, like myself, then look no further. Darian will not only get to know you but he will share his story with you so not only do you get someone that gets you but you feel as if a friend is marrying you on your special day.

Congratulations and best wishes!

Xo Stephanie

Principal Planner |
Sweetheart Events

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Hiring the ideal marriage commissioner and what to ask

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You’re engaged!!! You’re over the moon excited and the plans are starting to fall into place but when it comes to the core of the celebration, the ceremony, who will marry you?

Let’s make sure you get the ceremony you want with these questions. I recommend you encourage the officiant to share their story so you can get a feel for who they are, their passion and their personality to make sure it’s a good fit.

1. Are you available on our wedding date?

2. How many weddings have you performed?

3. How many weddings do you perform in one day? Are we your only couple that day?

4. How long is the average ceremony?

5. Are you flexible with different religions/beliefs?

6. How long are you on site for our wedding?

7. Do you have a sample ceremony that we can review?

8. Can I have a friend marry us? If so, what is your involvement?

9. What must we say legally in the ceremony?

10. Do you do custom ceremonies?

11. What is included in your fee?

12. What is the process from signing the contract to the wedding date? How many meetings will we have to create the custom ceremony? Payment schedule? How many revisions do we get when creating the ceremony?

13. Where do you find your inspiration when customizing a ceremony for a couple?

14. How much say do we have in the creation of the ceremony?

15. Will you assist us when writing our personal vows?

16. What is your back up if you were unable to be there for our day?

17. In the event of a cancellation or date change, what is the next step?

18. What do you do when you arrive at the venue before the ceremony?

19. Will you make an announcement for unplugged ceremonies and/or cocktail hour to follow before the ceremony begins?

20. Are you present for the wedding rehearsal? What is involved with that?

21. What do you wear to the ceremony?

22. Do you require pre-marital counseling before you marry us?


A few questions to dive deeper and get to know your officiant better:

1. Are you married? Tell us about your ceremony.

2. Why did you become a marriage commissioner?

3. What was the most moving ceremony you performed?

4. What languages do you speak? (just in case)

5. What is the most challenging part of your job?

6. When meeting with a couple what is it that you look for?

7. What is your favourite part of the wedding?

8. Tell us the most unique wedding you were apart of and how you customized their ceremony for them.

9. What do you wish more couple knew about marriage commissioners?

10. What is the best review from a couple you’ve received to date?

I have had the pleasure of working with Darian and his passion for marriage is contagious. If you believe the ceremony is the core of your wedding day, like myself, then look no further. Darian will not only get to know you but he will share his story with you so not only do you get someone that gets you but you feel as if a friend is marrying you on your special day.

Congratulations and best wishes!

Xo Stephanie

Principal Planner | Sweetheart Events


Stephanie Reitsma - Sweetheart Events


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6 Ways to Personalize Your Ceremony


Your ceremony is the most meaningful part of your wedding day. Depending on how traditional your ceremony will be, there are ways to personalize your nuptials to ensure that the experience feels true to you and your future spouse. Check out some of our favorite ways to personalize your wedding ceremony.
Music
Check with your ceremony venue to see if you can incorporate non-classical music into your ceremony playlist. Whether it’s an instrumental version of your favorite pop ballad during the prelude or a cheeky pop tune as a recessional, selecting music that you love will give your ceremony a personal touch.
Readings
Depending on your ceremony traditions, you may be able to include a few readings into your ceremony. From Shakespeare to religious texts to more modern-day literature, pick a few passages that speak to you. You can ask close friends or family members who would feel comfortable speaking in front of a crowd to perform the readings.
Vows
Many couples prefer to write their own vows. Work with your officiant to come up with a general template to help you get started.
Programs
Include personal touches to your ceremony program. Design the program using colors and fonts that you like, and write a note thanking your guests for attending. 
Officiant
Be sure to meet with your officiant several times before your ceremony. It’s important that your officiant gets to know you as a couple, so that he or she can create a ceremony that includes anecdotes and details about your relationship.
Decor
Incorporate flowers and other decor items that are meaningful to you - whether it's including your grandmother's favorite flower in your altar arrangements or including a family quilt in your chutzpah or ceremony canopy.

Source: The Knot. com
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Marriage Isn’t For You

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.


Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

Marriage is about family. 

I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.

This post originally appeared on ForwardWalking.com, a website dedicated to helping people move forward in life.
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How Do I Write My Own Vows?



Penning your own wedding vows is no easy task -- it’s like writing poetry, public speaking and having the deepest conversation of your life all at once. Putting your promises on paper is an emotional, eye-opening and often extremely memorable experience. Up for the challenge? Here's the homework you need to do (and the questions you should ask) to make your vows perfect.


Get Clearance

Make sure your ceremony officiant will actually allow personalized vows. Certain celebrants and houses of worship may require you to recite a specific set of traditional vows. And remember: Even some of the most accommodating officiants will want to review your words in advance.






Start Early

We can't say this enough: Don't leave writing your vows until the day before the wedding! You'll be too nervous, excited and rattled to give them the time and thought they deserve. Give yourselves at least a month, or work on your vows in that pocket of time after you've set up all your major vendors and before you have to start thinking about the details. Vow writing should be done in a relaxed, not rushed, frame of mind. Some loose deadlines to aim for: Try to get a first draft together about three weeks before the wedding and have your final version completed at least two days out.




Look to Tradition

To get inspired, start by reading traditional, by-the-book vows -- from your own religion, if you practice a certain faith, but others, as well -- to see what strikes a chord with you. You can incorporate these into the original words you write, or simply use them as a jumping-off point to base your personalized vows on.




Set the Tone

Before putting pen to paper, decide what overall tone you want to achieve. Humorous but touching? Poetic and romantic? It's your call -- the most important thing is that your vows ring true and sound like they're from your heart. One word of advice: While your vows can be lighthearted (or even hilarious), they should, in some way, acknowledge the seriousness of the commitment you're about to make. One way to do that is to weave little jokes into traditional vows (for example: "I promise to love you, cherish you and always watch Monday Night Football with you").




Figure Out the Logistics

Make sure you and your fiance are both on the same page. Are you each going to write your own vows, or will you write them together? If you're writing them separately, will you want to run them by each other before the wedding? If you're writing them together, will they be completely different for each of you, or will you recite some of the same words and make the same promises to each other, as you would with traditional vows? If you want them to be a surprise on your wedding day, make sure you both send a copy of what you've written to your officiant or to one friend or family member so they can check that your vows are about the same length and similar in tone.




Make a Vow Date

When it's time to come up with the actual content of your vows, go out to dinner or set aside an evening at home to brainstorm. Talk about your relationship and what marriage means to each of you. Discuss what you expect from each other and the relationship. What are you most looking forward to about married life? Why did you decide to get married? What hard times have you gone through together? What have you supported each other through? What challenges do you envision in your future? What do you want to accomplish together? What makes your relationship tick? Answering these questions will help you make and keep your promises, and talking about your bond may expose your inner Wordsworth and help you come up with phrases and stories you can incorporate into your vows.




Schedule Some Alone Time

After chatting with your future spouse, take some self-reflection time to think about how you feel about your partner. What did you think when you first saw them? When did you realize you were in love? What do you most respect about your partner? How has your life gotten better since meeting your mate? What about them inspires you? What do you miss most about them when you're apart? What qualities do you most admire in each other? What do you have now that you didn't have before you met? You may be surprised how these answers may lead you to the perfect words.




Steal Ideas

Borrow freely from poetry, books, religious and spiritual texts -- even from romantic movies. Jot down words and phrases that capture your feelings. Widely recognized works ring true for a reason.




Create an Outline

An outline can get you started by helping to establish a structure. For example, plan to first talk about how great your fiance is and then about how you work together as a couple; pause to quote your favorite writer and then go into your promises to each other.




Remember Your Audience

Don't make your vows so personal that they're cryptic -- or embarrassing! You've invited your family and friends to witness your vows in order to make your bond public, so be sure everyone feels included in the moment. That means putting a limit on inside jokes, deeply personal anecdotes and obscure nicknames or code words.




Time It Right

Don't make them too long -- aim for about one minute or so (it's longer than it sounds!). Your vows are the most important element of your ceremony, but that doesn't mean they should go on for hours. Get at the heart of what marrying this person means to you with your vows; pick the most important points and make them well. Save some thoughts for the reception toasts -- and for the wedding night.




Practice Out Loud (Seriously!)

These are words meant to be heard by a live audience, so check that they sound good when spoken. Read your vows out loud to make sure they flow easily. Watch out for tongue twisters and super-long sentences -- you don't want to get out of breath or stumble.



-- Special thanks to Alisa Tongg, a wedding celebrant



Read more: Wedding Vows & Readings: 20 Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows – Wedding Planning – Wedding Ceremony http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-ceremony/articles/20-tips-for-writing-your-own-wedding-vows.aspx#ixzz2XGngEmLF
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Wedding Ceremony Sample (With Translator)



Check out the amazing video made by Jason Leung from Infinitum here 
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15 Romantic Wedding Readings from Children’s Books

15 Romantic Wedding Readings from Children’s Books
Choosing a romantic reading for a wedding is one of the most exciting parts to planning your special day. It’s also one of the more memorable moments at any wedding ceremony for both yourselves, as the bridal couple – as well as for all your wedding guests.
Check out these amazing readings from children’s books. 
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Wedding on a Boat

I’m on a boat 

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