What Happens During a Wedding Ceremony?

A Step-by-Step Guide for Couples

For many couples, the ceremony is the most meaningful part of the wedding day — and also the most unfamiliar.

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering “What actually happens during a wedding ceremony?” or “Will we know what to do?” — you’re not alone.

The good news?
You don’t need to memorize anything, rehearse lines, or worry about getting it “right.”

A wedding ceremony is not a performance.
It’s a guided moment — and your officiant is there to lead you every step of the way.

Here’s what you can expect.

Before the Ceremony Begins: Arriving & Settling In

Before anything formal happens, there’s a quiet shift — a pause.

You arrive.

Guests gather.

There’s a feeling that something important is about to begin.

This is where a good officiant starts working quietly behind the scenes:

  • Making sure everyone is in the right place

  • Checking in with you

  • Ensuring witnesses are ready

  • Holding space for calm

You don’t need to worry about timing, cues, or logistics. That’s already taken care of.

The Welcome: Setting the Tone

The ceremony begins with a welcome.

This is where the officiant:

  • Greets your guests

  • Acknowledges the significance of the moment

  • Sets a tone that reflects you — warm, joyful, intimate, lighthearted, or deeply reflective

This opening moment helps everyone arrive emotionally, not just physically.

The Commitment Statement (Statement of Intent)

Following the welcome, the ceremony often moves into what’s known as the
Commitment Statement, sometimes called the Statement of Intent.

This is the moment where each of you clearly and intentionally states your desire
to enter into marriage.

It’s usually expressed through a simple “I do” or “I will”, and while it may sound
straightforward, it carries real legal and symbolic weight. This is the moment where
consent is spoken aloud — witnessed by those gathered and recognized by law.

Your officiant will guide you through this gently, asking each of you a question such as:

“Do you take this person to be your lawful spouse…?”

You simply respond with “I do” or “I will.”

There’s no need to memorize anything, and no pressure to perform. Your officiant
sets the pace, prompts the words, and ensures this moment feels grounded, clear,
and meaningful.

Once this commitment is made, the ceremony naturally flows into the story —
the why behind the promises you’re about to share.

The Story: Why You’re Here

Next comes the heart of the ceremony.

This may include:

  • Reflections on love and commitment

  • A brief telling of your story

  • Words about partnership, presence, and intention

At Vancouver Officiant, this part is always personal — never generic.

It’s not about reciting a script.
It’s about creating meaning in the moment.

Sharing your Vows or Promises

This is where you turn toward each other and make your promises.

Depending on your choices, this may include:

  • Personal vows you’ve written yourselves

  • Guided vows spoken line by line

  • A combination of both

If nerves show up here, that’s completely normal.

Your officiant will slow things down, guide you, and make sure you never feel rushed or unsure.

You’re not expected to remember anything — just to be present.

The Ring Exchange

If you’re exchanging rings, this usually follows the vows.

The officiant will:

  • Explain the meaning behind the rings

  • Guide you through the exchange

  • Prompt the words, if words are included

This moment is simple, symbolic, and often deeply emotional — even for couples who expected to feel calm.

The Legal Signing (When Applicable)

In British Columbia, the marriage licence must be signed by:

  • The couple

  • Two witnesses

  • The officiant

This may happen:

  • During the ceremony

  • Immediately after

  • Privately, depending on your preference

Your officiant ensures all legal details are handled properly, so you never need to worry about paperwork.

The Pronouncement

This is the moment everyone has been waiting for.

After your commitments are made, the officiant formally pronounces you married.

It’s joyful.

It’s grounding.

And yes — this is when the smiles, cheers, and happy tears usually begin.

The Closing & Celebration

The ceremony closes with:

  • Final words

  • A blessing or reflection (if desired)

  • An introduction of you as a married couple

And just like that — you’re married.

From here, the celebration continues.

A Final Thought for Couples

Most couples tell us the same thing afterward:

“It went by so fast — but it felt exactly right.”

That’s because a ceremony isn’t about knowing what comes next.

It’s about trusting someone to guide the moment with care.

At Vancouver Officiant, that’s what we do — calmly, intentionally, and always with heart.

If you’re planning your ceremony and have questions, we’re always happy to help you understand what to expect — and how to make it feel like yours.

Planning Your Ceremony?

Explore our officiant services or reach out anytime — we’re here to support you from planning to pronouncement.



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